you know who you are.
if he’s your friend, you’ll mind your own damn business and stop trying to stir the pot. that’s cruel. it’s mean. if you had any idea how much it upsets him, you wouldn’t even bring it up, you wouldn’t go out of your way to discuss it. or maybe you do know how much it upsets him, in which case, deliberately upsetting him is hateful.
there’s no kindness or gift in being a gossip; you’re not doing him any favors. seeking out things to tattle is heartless; stop kicking a man when he’s down. you’re upsetting him and that is just truly uncalled for if you are his friend. mind your own fucking business, really.