Pleasing others less is working well. Now, I don’t mean willfully displeasing people. I mean not caring if my choices make other people happy, only caring if my choices make me happy. When I care what others think or will say, I am not saying/doing/writing/being what I want. I am not being real when I put the concerns of others high on my list. Again, not being willfully mean or harmful to others: I mean just not caring if they approve or not.
Examples include: wearing my yoga pants to the grocery store without caring if anyone thinks it’s appropriate attire; working on my new business site without worrying over who will like the content or the business and who will think it’s dumb; writing this blog without censoring my thoughts; planning my next ebook(s) without concern over negative comments or approval. It feels lighter, freer to do things for myself. Sure, I’d love it if the world applauded my every choice, but that will never happen, so might as well just enjoy the moments.
Was it Dita Von Teese who said something like “you might be the ripest juiciest peach in the world and there will always be someone who doesn’t like peaches?” Yeah, so I’m gonna be my ripe juicy self and to hell with those that don’t like peaches.