There are days that will not be perfect, and in my book, it’s ok to acknowledge when things are sucky or less than what you want, but it’s critical to shake it off and focus on what you do want. Give the most energy to where you want to go, not where you’ve been.
One of the most important things to remember, and I remind myself constantly, and I remind my poor eye-rolling teenager constantly, is that we have zero control over the behavior of others. All we can do is set our boundaries for what works for us and be the best we know how to be; we can’t change how people around us act, can’t change what they will do or say. I am ever a work in progress on that point, forever trying to relinquish control over the universe. It’s hard to let go of the outcomes for other people, especially if their outcomes overlap with your own.
This weekend, I gave up a little of my white knuckle control, and look what happened: the Bee Gees keep reappearing. It’s bizarre. And it’s delightful. Let go.