someone this evening told me that i don’t get along with the former mr. kat 2.0 because he’s my ex-husband and that no one gets along with their ex’s and yaddayadda.
you’re wrongwrongwrong on that count. first, i can say that the former mr. kat 1.0 and i NEVER EVER fought like i disagree with 2.0, ever. we never grated on each other’s nerves that way and we still don’t. 2.0 and i are like rival countries or hatfields & mccoys or a pack of dingos at a parakeet farm…and 1.0, while he certainly irked me enough that i divorced him for reasons i shan’t go into at this moment, never waged these battles with me, was not a freakin’ bully, did not find glee in upsetting me.
and furthermore! i am friends (or at least peaceable!) with most of my ex-boyfriends over the years, really. i can remember why i was into them and put that in front of whatever disaster befell our relationship and just be friends, easy enough. so it’s not that 2.0 is an ex and thus he’s unworthy of respect or whatever, noooooooo, because that’s not how i roll. 2.0 just knows how to irritate the snot out of me and considers it to be a recreational sport of some kind! he wants a trophy in pissing me off. he wants to medal in making me yell.
but! on the bright side, we don’t interact that much any more. today was more interaction than we’ve had in a while and is a prime example of why i prefer email to in-person discussions with him. it’s healthier if we just don’t talk right now…kinder, gentler, better that way.